Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

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This month is pregnancy and infant loss awareness month.

I am 1 in 4.

If you know me in real life, it’s possible you didn’t know this about me.

I haven’t talked about it much. I do feel comfortable coming here and talking about it though.

No matter the gestation, or situation that happened. It matters. You matter. Your baby matters.

When my baby died, I was supposed to be 8 weeks along. But baby stopped growing at 6-7 weeks unfortunately died.

I use the term die, because that’s exactly what happened, and I feel more comfortable stating that the baby died, not that I “lost” it.

I say no matter the gestation it matters, because I was told that since I wasn’t too far along it wasn’t that big of a deal. BUT it was a big deal to me..

I suffered in silence after a while.

Many told me I just needed to get over it and it happened to many women. It was like my feelings and my situation didn’t matter. BUT it did matter, and DOES matter!!

I shut down after a while and just stopped talking about my miscarriage because of all the horrible things being said to me.

No one should have to go through that alone. Like I said no matter the situation or gestation etc.

Suffering alone and in silence killed me. It changed me.

Here I am today though, speaking on this story. MY story. Why? Because it MATTERS!!

I will no longer sit there and have someone tell me it never mattered, that my baby that died never mattered Again.

If you are 1 in 4, and need someone to speak to. Don’t hesitate. Join a support group even. Don’t let it get pushed aside, and don’t let anyone tell you your story doesn’t matter. 🖤🖤